Exploring Relationships

So at my last therapy session I was talking to my therapist about how Kevin and both thought that we got married too young. (not that we regret it, we just recognize that we're going to have to work hard on our relationship.) It's interesting being at an age where were are supposed to be "discovering" ourselves, but we're already settled down and have a family. It's hard to relate to people our own age because most of them seem shallow, and, quite frankly, really irritating. Just because a lot of them have no life experience, like living on their own, paying rent, taking care of children, etc, and we do.  (For example, Kevin is currently customizing a pink Lamborghini with purple rims for the girls on one of his racing video games, what do you think most 22 year olds are doing tonight?)

So, back to Kevin and I, she recommended this book (that I love already) called Getting the Love You Want It's all about exploring the laws of attraction, and what part of our brains process how we feel about other people. I'm on page 20 and I'm already thoroughly hooked.  I can't wait to blog about it soon. :)

The last book I read that my doctor recommended was Suffering is Optional . Alright, so technically it's about the three core beliefs of Buddhism. Ok, ok, I know how many people are gasping in shock. Don't worry, I'm not converting. It was an amazing, life changing book. Don't be put off by the fact that it's written by a Buddhist. It's awesome.

The most important thing I learned was don't take anything personally. Everything other people say to you is a projection of one of their beliefs or assumptions and has nothing to do with you. That's what all opinions are. It's our choice to internalize what other people say. Sound easy? It is. If you do tend to take everything personally and don't think you can just adopt the idea of it being someone else's problem, not yours, sit down and take a moment for yourself. Practice some deep breathing and try to explore why it is that you need to take things personally. Can you identify that assumption/belief that you have, and probably don't even consciously think about, that makes you do that? It's crazy digging into yourself and being about to recognize your core beliefs and where they came from. 


Basically, my point is, I'm really loving this phase of life right now. Exploring and Discovery. I'm especially excited to read this new book. (I was talking to a friend this morning about how I prefer to read secular books. Want to know why? Because I feel like when a Christian writes a book there's too much theology and their perception of how a certain fact applies to a Christian, or other biblical principles. When I read a secular book I can read it through the lens of my own personal relationship with Christ, and I don't feel like someone is trying to push their beliefs on me.) 


Stay tuned for more discoveries!